The Neighbors Just Got Nasty | Won’t You be My Neighbor?

I can not even believe what went down this past Saturday when our neighbors started to emerge from their houses after winter storm Nemo.

You know I am originally from Rhode Island, right? Well, even in the smallest state where people can walk around with the biggest chip on their shoulder, when a storm like a blizzard hits neighbors are quite helpful. Believe me, I have met some dandy’s in my life, but this past weekend I may have seen an all time low in the human race. ย “Sub-human” as my brother in law would say.

Here is how it all played out.

T.J. had just brought G upstairs to get her ready for a nap. Time was about 12:30pm and we were just finishing up lunch and already reminiscing about the fun we had outside in the snow earlier in the morning. Since I eat pretty slow I was last to finish up eating and was sitting alone at the dining room table. I heard a knock at the door, but didn’t get up because we weren’t expecting company. I continued to finish up my lunch when the knocking turned into pounding on the door. Okay, so now this person obviously has my attention. Let me say that we took the batteries out of the doorbell when we first moved here because I didn’t want anyone ringing it and waking up G from her afternoon nap. So, knocking is the only way to get our attention.

I started up the stairs to the second floor because the knocking wasn’t friendly by any means, my heart was racing and I wanted to get T.J. and see how he wanted to handle this. He couldn’t hear anything upstairs with the washing machine going in the room next to him and G babbling about in his ear.

The pounding on the door continued as T.J. made his way to the door. We have a peep hole so he looked through and saw two of our neighbors standing outside. He opened the door to find our glass storm door falling to pieces onto him. What? He then carefully opens the storm door only to have a woman barking orders at him to move one of our cars. Again…what? Like, is this really happening right now? No, “hi, how are you, we’ve never met and my name is blah, can you please move your car”. Nope! Profanity, yelling, and threats is what went on over the next few minutes. I was sitting on the stairs holding G who was visibly frightened by the pounding on the door. No where does it say we are obligated to move our cars for snow removal. That is simply a courtesy. Don’t people know that a little kindness can get you a long way? This woman has to be in her late 50s, but clearly has zero manners.

This woman is a board member for the condo community we live in. We knew who she was from other residents. This woman owns two violent dogs. One attacked another resident and his German Shepard just this past Fall. Her pit-bull sent a grown man to the hospital needing surgery. A memo was sent out to the residents, but was very vague and only told us that there had been a dog attack and all dogs were to be leashed. People started talking and it was only a matter of time before everyone living here figured out what dog had attacked. The dog is still in this woman’s custody and continues to be a problem in this community. I’m not sure how the attack is being handled at this time.

This woman was standing at our front door with another board member who lives directly across from us. He is a whole other story for another time. She told T.J. that if he didn’t move the car she would order the plow service to plow us in, she would write us up for being non-compliant, and finally threatened us with a dog attack. Yep, she went there. “I will sick my dog on you”. As if she approves this untrained animals violent behavior.

Can you even imagine. T.J. was beyond livid, seeing all shades of red, yelling back at her nonsense. Our families taught us to defend ourselves in times like this and Italian tempers are nothing to mess with. This lady just poked the wrong bear. I imagine she thought she could throw her weight around and we would cower. Wrong.

T.J. called the state police and had a report filed so that there would be a record of the threat. Obviously we are both very concerned that she would not think twice about having her dog attack anyone.

Our next steps will happen today. We have several calls to make on how to proceed. We aren’t going to be bullied by this woman and she needs to know that this behavior is unexceptable. She may think she can get away with it because we are tenants and not owners, but this is not the end of it. Not to mention telling our landlord that she broke his property. I’m sure he will be thrilled to hear about his busted door.

Do you have a nasty neighbor?

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

About Candice

Candice is a mom of three under 5. Originally from the smallest state of Rhode Island, now living in Connecticut. From working gal to stay-at-home mom, she is walking the path of the Modern Mom.


  1. I’m right there with you… My ‘nasty neighbour’ also happens to be my aunt. A couple years ago she verbally and physically attacked my mom. Haven’t talked to her since. People are crazy!

  2. Oh my g-d!!! I am so sorry to hear! You never met them before either? That is all sorts of crazy. I am glad he filed a police report. Did the whole door shatter? Ughhhh!!!

  3. What the? Sorry but that is so ridiculous! I’m so sorry that happened to you. Unacceptable in my book. I’m glad you guys aren’t tolerating this behavior from her. ๐Ÿ™

  4. What a beast. I hope you find a new house soon. My husband is the “crazy” neighbor.

  5. WOW. That is insane. Who threatens w. a dog attack…this lady is giving bullies a bad bad name! she should NOT own an animal!!

    Luckily we live in a nice neighborhood now and its all older people. But when we lived in our townhouse the one neighbor was like a poop cleaner nazi! And there were always letters going around if you dont clean after your animal you will be fined…ok yea its not cool to leave it but if its in your part of the yard and you dont get it right away relax it will get picked up!

    hope things get resolved easy and quick!

  6. Audrey - Mom Generations says:

    Are you KIDDING ME??? That is crazy.
    I guess I shouldn’t complain about having old, quiet neighbors anymore!

  7. omg that is just insane!!!!!!! ARGH!

  8. Oh, my… how HORRIBLE. I’m so sorry your family had to go through this. Unacceptable doesn’t begin to describe this behavior. It’s funny, because just today I went to the P.O. in Bristol to mail some letters and an older man helped me over the snowbank and said, “Young lady, you need a pair of boots!!” I told him that I’d been helping my elderly neighbor with her dog (my husband Barry, daughter Jane and I have been letting the dog out and walking him since the storm hit) and that my boots were soaking wet. (I really wanted to hug him for calling me “young lady”!) He said, “That’s why I love Bristol. Everyone helps.” It’s so easy to be helpful and kind, and so difficult to be miserable. That lady’s blood pressure must be through the roof… or, yet again, it doesn’t sound like she has much of a heart to pump much blood anyway. So sorry…

  9. Wow. I’ve had some nasty neighbors in the past (one that had a child who bullied my son when he was a young one), but they fortunately moved. That, however, takes the cake. Good for you for filing a police report! And how on earth is that woman on the board?!

  10. Awful! So sad that society is lacking a completely understanding of manners. No class. We had a crazy guy in our neighborhood, hunting for our neighbor…my husband had to go to court to testify on the guy. We have another weirdo. When we moved in my husband crossed the street to introduce himself, the man (who hears fine) just stared at the vinyl siding on his house. No response.

  11. holy bazones!! I don’t know what I would have done. I’ve had one run-in with a neighbor because I had moved my car to the “cul-de-sac” while we loaded a fridge onto a truck. It’s no parking, I get it, but I was outside and no one comes up our street unless you live here. He started yelling at Jon and me, and trying to LIFT my car up off the ground.

    After calling the cops and they finally showed up, we found out he’s been called on a few times because he goes psychotic when he’s off his meds. Um thanks for the warning :/

  12. That is so appalling! Thank God you guys had the good sense to call the police and have the threat documented. What is wrong with people?!?

  13. Wow! This is crazy! Did you end up moving the car? I hope she gets into all kinds of trouble for her nasty threats!

  14. I’m so sorry you had to go through such insanity! Crazy weekend is right!

  15. Oh my goodness, Candice, what a nightmare!!! I am glad to hear that TJ had the sense to stick up for you both, and smart move calling the police. That is NOT acceptable to threaten with a dog attack, EVER!! I really hope things work out for the best for you guys!!!

  16. That’s crazy!! What is wrong with people?! Storms bring out the best in my neighborhood. We all help each other shovel and chat together.

  17. Jennifer Young says:

    That’s awful! We have a horrible neighbor as well. She is a middle aged woman with 15 cats and does autopsies for a living. She once told us that she LOVES doing autopsies on babies and children (I have 2 small children) because she finds them so fascinating! She flips us off every times she passes us and says and does awful things including shining spotlights in our window in the middle of the night from her window. We have had to call the police on her a number of times as well, unfortunately, but like you, we wanted it on file with the police all of her awful behavior! Good luck, I know how bad it can be!

  18. Some people…

    That sucks you had to deal with her. She must have the worst life ever. Yuck.

  19. candice i am speechless! so sorry that even happened… and so proud of you two for filing a police report. if there really is such a thing as karma (and i do hope there is), she will get hers. i seriously hope the police do something about her for you. xo

  20. She sounds completely crazy! And to damage property plus physically threaten you, knowing full well a child lives in your home? Disgusting. I’m glad you filed a complaint and that it’s documented. Wishing you the very best as you proceed!

  21. Holy cow, that is AWFUL!!!!! I’m so sorry you guys have to deal with a nut like that ๐Ÿ™

  22. Your neighbor is inhumane and needs to be put down! Her behavior is inexcusable. I’m so sorry you and TJ went through this! I hope the report goes your way and you get some relief from this tyrant!

    You should do a link-up to this blog about people’s worst neighbor stories! My parents’ neighbor is insane (his wife was jealous of my mom after my dad died bc now she was single. NO JOKE)… he came flying through some trees when my husband and I were home (in PA) preparing for our wedding, and called me a whore. Why? Who knows, but I started slowly walking towards him, looking like I was going to explode and he ran. I’ve been married for 3 years and have not seen him since then.

  23. What a B!!! So UNCALLED FOR! Good for you for standing your ground. Sick her dogs on you!?! Unbelievable.

  24. Oh my good lord!! That is complete insanity, What a horrible person! I can’t believe they broke your glass door!!!! I’m so glad you filed a report, hopefully the police can do something, because that woman needs to go!

  25. Holy COW!!! How insane and scary!!! I would want to move right away, but then I guess she would WIN if you did. That is so awful!! I feel so bad for you guys!! Let me know how the next steps go, and come back to RI!!!

  26. Horrible treatment, and I’m glad you filed a report. I was thinking that, me being me, I might have said to my wife “Go get the gun”, and once that got someone’s attention said “You just threatened me with your dog, so now I’m going to kill it.” Of course that would have gotten a bit of different attention, which would have proven to be interesting since I don’t have a gun, but I don’t suffer bullies well, and after breaking my door I’d have felt like all limits were off.

    So, your husband did the right thing, and I’m glad I have neighbors who are either very nice or leave us alone.

  27. I am so sorry. It seems NEMO brought out the WORST of ppl in my neck of the woods too.
    Long story short, a lady moved in in October (?) I barely noticed her. She approached me in December chatting about my 2 dogs, real nice and friendly, I felt that maybe I had a new pal in the neighborhood.
    As her story unravels I am seeing major red flags. Her son and his girlfriend (both in their 20’s) live with her, they are verbally abusive, steal from her, are on hardcore drugs, shes a prisoner in her home, the landlord is stealing heat from her to heat the whole house, ppl listen through her vents to her, ppl steal her mail, etc.etc.etc.etc.etc.etc.
    Sadly the whole son/daughter in law thing was true. ALL of it.
    The rest IDK about. Every single time I tried to help her rectify the heat or electricity being stolen problem (IE: confirm the validity of it) I was stonewalled by her.
    Her behavior was very erratic, manic, paranoid, weird. I distanced myself from her. I can only be a friend, I am not capable of handling a gal with severe untreated psych issues. I offered advice, phone numbers, etc. Come to find out shes true to this, not new to this. She knows who to call and what to do. She kept begging me for money, pet food, gas money, food, etc. While she had no less than 300 in her wallet. She let that “oops” slip out in one of her manic conversations.
    I stayed away totally for 3 weeks, she calls me one day and is like “I did it, the kids are gone, I am doing well, I am happy and free, lets go out” I got the entire dramatic tale and was like Ill go out to lunch with her and let her down gently. I dont want to upset her, she scared me with her instability.
    In this time period (before the Superbowl) she had unleashed MORE drama on me about her addiction issues and how she stopped ALL of her meds-cold turkey. Well, I knew this was NOT going to end well. I encouraged her to not do that and to talk to her doctors first. But according to her they were trying to “poison her and get in her mind” .
    Meanwhile I am saying the most basic, vague, bland things to her. I do NOT want to be in the crosshairs of her paranoid manic rages.

    Week before NEMO I was sick and wasnt available to listen to her, she began acting cool and strange to me. The Friday the storm began she calls me and says “I knew it was you ALL along, you installed an APP in my DVD player to spy on me, you want to be me and steal my identity, you are conspiring with my son” and it continued until I said “Take your meds, you need help. Good luck, God bless” then I hung up.
    After NEMO she goes out and tells neighbors she met 1 time I said ALL this bad stuff about them! What she did was put HER words about other ppl in MY mouth. SO after defusing a flame or two with my neighbors I had known for YEARS, she wouldn’t give up the paranoid gossip, to the point ppl turned and went in their homes when they saw her outside!

    I was apologized to by the neighbor who got upset with me and now the lady had vanished. Shes hopefully in a program getting much needed help.

    This is a prime example of me trying to be too good of a friend and savior and it blew up in my face. I was drawn in slowly by her tale of whoa. I thought she was a nice, but a little kooky (arent we all?) lady who needed a true friend. I was all that. Even now I didnt tell the neighbors her story. Despite her betrayal of me I couldnt do it.

    I know that was long, but I felt your frustration and pain in your words. I was in tears when word got back to me about what she said to those 2 ppl. One of the ppl I didnt even know his name! lolz. I said to him “She lives ABOVE you, you KNOW how she is. I am shocked you’re even asking me to entertain her lies” I was just so shocked ppl who had seen me or even talked to me socially for YEARS could even consider her lies. But, hey, whatever. I have known you GOTTA keep short, sweet, simple or else you get dragged into BS. Sad but true.

    Thanks for letting me share this. I have been going crazy wondering if I did something wrong. I didnt. Heck, she owes me like 75 bucks..lolz..I tried, but her issues were beyond me. I couldnt do anything to help her. Not like she TRULY needed anyways.

Speak Your Mind


CommentLuv badge