Toddlers are Testers

Toddlers are Testers

Don’t get me wrong, I love my little G to pieces, to the moon and back, but lately she is testing everyone of my last nerves.

I know I’m pregnant and we are in the midst of another major move and all so my emotions are high, but seriously the closer we get to age three the more of a struggle it’s become. Every little thing is a issue. Diaper changes, psst. Horrible. And, they aren’t very often since she uses the potty while we are home during the day.

G has her own opinion now and I get that. She is learning and growing and finding her own way. She is quite independent and likes to try to do everything on her own even when it’s a struggle. Hmmm. I wonder where she gets that from. {Looks in the mirror.}

Why don’t toddlers understand that a struggle makes things take more than double the time? Like don’t stress out that I’m taking the dog out before we leave in the car or kick and scream that I need to change your poop diaper.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. Okay, maybe a tiny bit. A mother is allowed, no?

I thought this time before G’s sister arrived would be different. I had it all planned out in my mind. I’m really trying to savor all the time I have left with her as an only child. Some days it’s more difficult than others and really get me down. For example, Today started off really fun. I took her out to the playground and then to a local farm and finally out for a little lunch. I knew she was super tired and was looking forward to her having a great nap. She had been up since before 6am. Nap was good, about an hour but then it’s like the nap turned everything upside down. After the nap she was testy and zesty. Made for a long afternoon but we survived and she even told us she was tired and went to bed before 7.

I’ve concluded that this little gal needs lots of sleep and boy oh boy when she doesn’t get it. Watch out.

I guess I need to just take the good days with the not so good days and make this less about me and more about her.

Another thing that is racking my nerves is wondering how our household will change by adding a fourth person. G really thrives on the routine we have going here and I don’t want to mess with a good thing especially with these testy times we are having.

Oh and Daddy? He is just the apple of her eye. I know, it’s a daddy daughter thing, but I never noticed so much as I do now. Maybe she gets tired of me since I’m the one she is hanging out with all day.

Having a similar situation in your house? How was it, is it, adding a second child into the mix?

G is 29 months old and the testy to my zesty. ๐Ÿ™‚



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About Candice

Candice is a mom of three under 5. Originally from the smallest state of Rhode Island, now living in Connecticut. From working gal to stay-at-home mom, she is walking the path of the Modern Mom.


  1. My oldest was about 33 months old when my second was born. At first it was a hard because she was jealous often, she wasn’t old enough to understand that a baby is fragile and isn’t a baby doll, but old enough to know that that “thing” isn’t going anywhere either. Having her help with “big girl” things like throwing away diapers or getting a new one helped. It does get easier though!! I can’t say the testing goes away though! LOL!

  2. I had an older friend of mine tell me that toddlers are simply trying to exercise free will. They aren’t testing you out of spite, but rather expressing their innermost desires. As parents this is something we can misunderstand in the heat of the moment.

  3. This post makes me smile. I had five children in 7 years. So needless to say I had several days, weeks even months thinking… what happened to my sweet children, along with did I completely loose my sanity between nap time and dinner time. However now that I have grandchildren to hug I look back on the experience and think to myself how truly blessed I was to be the parent of each and everyone one of those individuals.

    • I love everything about this comment. I’m a SAHM to two girls (as of Aug. 2012) I was finding the attitude bad before I had her little sister around, and even though (for the moment) there is no animosity…she tries my patients a lot more than she did. It doesn’t help she just started school in September. They say they calm down a bit at 5…I really hope so. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. My daughter was 33 months when her sister was born. Due to some minor pregnancy issues, my first and I had some tough times. She couldn’t sit in my lap anymore, I was sick a lot at first, and without my undivided attention, potty training was a bust. She is actually very excited to have a sister and a playmate, but even now, 18 months later, I catch the jealous glint in her eye when she’s playing and “the baby” snuggles up in my lap. Or when I’m deciphering the babe’s needs and she just wants to read or play. And the only lingering regression in my oldest is sippy cups. She quit using regular cups at home (unless she’s stealing sips of my drink) and must have a sippy like her sister. The one thing I have learned is I MUST list the things we have to do before we leave, or else they beat on the front door yelling, “Go, go!” ๐Ÿ˜‰ It’s fun, but trying.

  5. My son is an only child, but having my brother’s kids here so much I see how easily the kids become jealous of each other.

  6. my tot is just jealous of anything that is not him. he is also hooked on daddy and everytime daddy is home and i try to play with him he tells me No! then he says “daddy daddy daddy!!” ugh. it is really not fair.

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