Big Sister Status
I can’t relate to what G is going through. I can only imagine what she might be feeling.
I am an only child.
I was so excited when I found out we were expecting again. I instantly knew it was another girl. Immediately I was full of emotion, maybe even a tad jealous, to know that G would grow up loving her sister and vice versa. Imagining all the adventures they would have together and ups and downs. Regardless, they would always have one another and no one could ever take that away.
We prepped G as much as we could for the arrival of Val. As time went on, and we grew close to the end of those nine months, G started getting more and more excited. I wondered if she really knew what was coming. Sometimes I even felt guilty that she would no longer be the center of our attention.
Well, the day came, or should I say the night, when T.J. and I drove off to the hospital by the light of the Super Moon. No turning back now, baby sister was in her way and G would become a big sister.
It’s nearly a week later. We only stayed in the hospital 24 hours after Val arrived. I couldn’t wait to come home. I was missing G like crazy. I knew everyone’s emotions would be running high.
G is truly in love with Val. It was like an instant connection. I’m know Val grew fond of G while she was in my tummy. She would kick and spin at the sound of G’s voice.
G’s behavior is up and down. I figured as much with such a huge adjustment. Some days are good and others are a struggle. I assume at 2.5 years old it’s difficult to express how you are feeling verbally…Especially feelings of anger without having z tantrum. So, we struggle.
My OB made a great suggestion. She said give G all the attention I can because and infant is easily comforted just by being held and by pretty much anyone. G needs much more than that and it is obvious.
I guess this is why most moms say that going from one child to two is hardest. A true balancing act of emotion.
I know that this will pass and G’s emotional roller coaster will come to the end. It’s just painful for me to see her struggle. I’m often times upset thinking I imposed this on her.
G is 2 years and 7 months old and Val is 6 days new.