I Broke Up With My OB at 39 Weeks
Well, I went to bed last night with a huge weight off my chest. We made the decision and T.J. and I finally had a good nights sleep. The first for me in a long time since all of this stress started with my doctor.
I awoke feeling refreshed and anxiously awaited 8:30am to call my OB’s office to cancel my sonogram, weekly appointment and c-section which was scheduled for Wednesday. After doing so, I called a doctor, who comes highly recommended and is local to me now, and they were able to fit me in on Wednesday.
No sooner I get off the phone with this new-to-me doctors office, my former OB is calling me directly. I answer. She sounds frantic. Typically she is the type of person who talks over you but she was doing it even more so today. She obviously wanted to know why I was leaving her at 39 weeks.
I thought to myself, “now you are concerned?”
Some highlights of our conversation:
I had told this woman several months back that I was moving. Today she heard me say it again and it finally clicked as if I never told her.
She insisted that I don’t tell anyone that she pushes elected c-sections.
She asked me to do her a favor when requesting my medical records. Could I write a note saying that I was only leaving because I relocated and not because I didn’t want a c-section.
She continued to push for me to keep my scheduled surgery on Wednesday.
She said I could come in and she would personally give me an ultrasound to see what position the baby was in.
She told me that I would have to sign a waver if I went against her advice for the c-section and continued with my pregnancy and tried to labor naturally.
She mentioned an induction.
She spoke over me the whole time and then tried to talk her way out of why she laughed out loud at my suggestions for trying acupuncture or a chiropractor. She even went so far as to say she was into alternative medicine!
She said she thought we had a good relationship. Maybe because she thought she was the boss and I’m a pushover?! Not me!
She asked why I didn’t stay longer last week and talk about how I was feeling. I could not get the hell out of there fast enough. That’s why.
Nothing she said during this conversation changed my mind about the decision T.J. and I had made. It reconfirmed for me that she and I are not on the same page and this relationship was over.
Did I mention that during my visit last week and her attempts to schedule my c-section surgery she also asked me if I wanted my tubes tied?! Ya know, because she would already be in there and all. WTF!? I’m 34 and I’m not ready to make a decision about ending my fertility!
It sickens me that there are doctors out there like this. Scaring patients into tests and surgeries that are not necessary. No wonder home births and midwives are in high demand.
When I was pregnant with G I had three sonograms. One to confirm my pregnancy, another for the anatomy scan and a final one to see if my placenta privia had resolved.
Having an ultrasound every visit to see where the baby is was just crazy to me. Don’t babies move?! If they don’t then you worry right?!
The practice I am going to on Wednesday already has my mind and body at ease. Two female doctors who have the patients best interest in mind and actually listen to what is on your mind.
The doctor I am seeing Wednesday called me today after reviewing my records. She asked me a few questions like was this my first pregnancy, did I have a vaginal delivery with my first, we’re there any complications with this pregnancy since there were none that she could see on paper. She cannot understand why my former OB would want to have me elect a c-section at 39 weeks when there are no complications and baby is head down but not engaged.
Yep! My thoughts exactly.