This IS Doable :: Adding a Sibling

This IS Doable :: Adding a Sibling

Now that we are officially on baby watch I can feel my anxiety trying to get the best of me.

We have had more than the average amount of transitions over the past few weeks. Packing and moving into a new home, unpacking, and getting ready to add a second child to our family. And then there was the drama with my former OB. Its a lot, but we did it and the dust is finally starting to settle into place. I notice each of us looking less stressed and being the family we were before all these changes last month.

G has had a pretty structured routine since she was an infant and this household thrives on the routine. There are no surprises and we all know what is happening and when. It works for us.

Adding a baby into this routine that has been going strong for two years seems crazy. We have a good thing going and I can only imagine the whole thing will blow up in our face and the routine is shot. There are so many variables so we can only wait and see.

I’m an only child so I have no idea what G may be feeling. What I do know is that she is testing our will every single hour. I know the packing and moving and baby stuff must have her emotions confused. The toddler tantrums are in full swing and time outs are a daily occurrence. Most of the time I feel bad that she is lashing out because of my own guilt over something I did like mover her to a new house and disrupt the tidy lifestyle she had the past year.  She expresses to us that she is excited for her baby sister’s arrival but who really knows if she truly understands what is coming.

People do this all the time so I am confident we can manage. We don’t have family close by, either, which doesn’t help ease my mind, but they are ready to make the two hour drive and stay from time to time. And, luckily T.J. has July and most of August off. We can tag-team this situation together.

Most moms who I’ve spoke to say the first six or so weeks will be the hardest and then everything will naturally fall into place. So, I’m glad to hear that. Another good thing is that its summer, which means I don’t have to be housebound like I was when G was born in the winter. We can sit outside together and G can run around the yard with Rhody. Get our vitamin D, relax and enjoy being outside. Hopefully some trips to the beach too!

So, now we just wait. We wait and see how going from a family of three to four will be. More love to go around, right?! Nothing wrong with that!

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About Candice

Candice is a mom of three under 5. Originally from the smallest state of Rhode Island, now living in Connecticut. From working gal to stay-at-home mom, she is walking the path of the Modern Mom.


  1. Holly Grass says:

    I wanted baby #2 and then when it happened I spent 9 months thinking what have I done. It took awhile to get use to do things with 2 girlies instead of 1 but now I just can’t imagine life without them both

  2. My family was 2500 miles away when I had my second, so I understand about no having close family 🙂 It took about a month for my oldest to adjust. At first he would glare at my youngest son. Some of my favorite photos are of my oldest sitting on my hospital bed glaring down at his new baby brother. I love them and he loves looking at them and laughing 🙂 Now they fight like normal brothers do and love each other very much. Your family will adjust, I promise!

  3. I know you are going to do just great! You both are wonderful, loving parents and I am sure G will ADORE her new baby counterpart! 🙂 Maybe she is a bit frightened of the unknown, but once that baby is here I bet she will be so excited! If you ever need help, there are plenty of us CT peeps that can help. NO WORRIES! you got this! 🙂

  4. I have a two year old son and a two month old daughter, and had a lot of the same worries and feelings leading up to my daughter’s birth. It is a juggling act and some days even more crazy, but I was amazed by how well my son eased into a different schedule and role when it happened. Tantrums do happen, but a couple melt downs a day are manageable and he is a sweetheart otherwise! You’ll all be great once everyone gets used to it in a few weeks 🙂

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