This IS Doable :: Adding a Sibling
Now that we are officially on baby watch I can feel my anxiety trying to get the best of me.
We have had more than the average amount of transitions over the past few weeks. Packing and moving into a new home, unpacking, and getting ready to add a second child to our family. And then there was the drama with my former OB. Its a lot, but we did it and the dust is finally starting to settle into place. I notice each of us looking less stressed and being the family we were before all these changes last month.
G has had a pretty structured routine since she was an infant and this household thrives on the routine. There are no surprises and we all know what is happening and when. It works for us.
Adding a baby into this routine that has been going strong for two years seems crazy. We have a good thing going and I can only imagine the whole thing will blow up in our face and the routine is shot. There are so many variables so we can only wait and see.
I’m an only child so I have no idea what G may be feeling. What I do know is that she is testing our will every single hour. I know the packing and moving and baby stuff must have her emotions confused. The toddler tantrums are in full swing and time outs are a daily occurrence. Most of the time I feel bad that she is lashing out because of my own guilt over something I did like mover her to a new house and disrupt the tidy lifestyle she had the past year. She expresses to us that she is excited for her baby sister’s arrival but who really knows if she truly understands what is coming.
People do this all the time so I am confident we can manage. We don’t have family close by, either, which doesn’t help ease my mind, but they are ready to make the two hour drive and stay from time to time. And, luckily T.J. has July and most of August off. We can tag-team this situation together.
Most moms who I’ve spoke to say the first six or so weeks will be the hardest and then everything will naturally fall into place. So, I’m glad to hear that. Another good thing is that its summer, which means I don’t have to be housebound like I was when G was born in the winter. We can sit outside together and G can run around the yard with Rhody. Get our vitamin D, relax and enjoy being outside. Hopefully some trips to the beach too!
So, now we just wait. We wait and see how going from a family of three to four will be. More love to go around, right?! Nothing wrong with that!