My Toddler Hates Bedtime
Sometimes it’s good, but when it’s bad, it’s really bad.
I’ve talked about this before. My oldest daughter at the ripe age of 3.5 years old hates bedtime. In fact, I’m not sure she ever has cooperated when it comes to rest of any kind.
When she was an infant up until about age 1, she had to be held for every nap unless she fell asleep in the car. We would have to rock her and walk around with her for a good hour to lull her to sleep at the end of the day before we put her in her crib. We ended up having to do our own version of CIO after she turned 1 because we were both at our wits end with her sleep routine.
Maybe this is our fault from the beginning? Ah!
Totally makes me want to punch the wall or run outside in the yard to scream off my utter insanity over the bedtime drama.
It’s a hot mess after 4pm. G does not nap, nor does she rest at any point during the day. I think she had napped maybe five times in the last year. Usually it’s due to illness or some random fluke.
We certainly try rest time every day. Usually after lunch or when Val takes her afternoon nap I will ask her to go rest in her room. This usually means she can read book quietly, while she rests in her bed.
Sometimes she will comply. But, not for very long. Usually after 10 minutes she is already wandering the hallway asking me if she can come out of her room. I always tell her no, and that I will come and get her when rest time is over.
I’ve tried resting with her with usually just winds up her talking my ear off, or jumping all over the bed. That is not restful for anyone. It’s just so frustrating! I tend to give in and let her watch the iPad or a show on TV just to keep her idle and quiet for an extended amount if time. Which then makes me feel some kind of guilt.
So naturally, because she doesn’t rest, she starts acting out and as the day progresses on to the late afternoon and it’s just a downhill spiral to bedtime which is the tip of the iceberg.
I am basically at a complete loss on how to get her to wind down. Her days are completely fulfilled with play dates, activities, plenty of outside time, visitors, etc and I can see the exhaustion on her face when the dark circles start for form under her eyes.
On days we hang around the house and are “lazy” the same cycle occurs.
I’ve tried baths before bed, but baths seem to stimulate her, playing soft music (that worked for a little while) we always read a story before bed, and she has had the same bedtime routine for years.
So bedtime is a hot mess. She stalls and stalls and stalls and stalls and screams, wakes up her sister, yells, fights with us, and it goes on for what seems like an eternity. Some nights it can last for hours.
And, by the time she is asleep TJ and I are beat.
Why. Can’t. You. Just. Go. To. Sleep?