Expanding Our Family // Questions Answered
In about 10 weeks we will be a family of five. Yes, we are expanding our family from two to three kiddos.
There have been comments flying around and looks and concerns from people that I figure I should clear up.
It seems that we shocked people when we finally dropped the news of our third baby. I didn’t think a shocking reaction was what we would receive, but, for the most part family and friends were shocked or surprised. To me, I felt it would have only been shocking and surprising if this was our first baby. I mean, isn’t that typically when you get the biggest reaction? I figured at this point it would be more like “old news”. I guess I was wrong.
Is a family of five too much for most people? I know for years and years the ideal was a boy and a girl, a pair of kids, one for each parent, two was the “perfect” number. I always thought that was BS. I don’t know when we got so far off track…maybe it was when Moms worked instead of staying home so two kids was “easier”?! My grandfather was one of ELEVEN children. Big families were once, dare I say, “normal”. The more hands, the more help? The more love to fill the house? The more noise for sure! 🙂
Whatever the case may be, what you decide in your house, for your family, is your business.
So moving on from, “WHOA three kids” reaction there is the next question about “trying for a boy”. Again, disgust on my face if you could see it. I mean, no, we weren’t trying for anything really. I am glad to be expecting another happy and healthy baby. None of our children were “planned”. There was really no thought to it at all. We are just living our lives here and taking it one day at a time. I’m pregnant?! Great! I’m not?! That’s great too. My Aunt use to tell me that babies come when the time is right and when they are ready. There is never a good time or a bad time to have a baby. They know when its time. Leave it up to the higher powers. So I’m just going with the flow.
Next up is how shocking it is that our children are so close in age. Again, we didn’t plan on any of their timing so it is what it is. I think its a blessing that they will all only be 4 years apart. They will be great playmates, and I can only hope, the best of friends. As Val begins to walk, her and G just have the best time playing together. I hear giggles and fun and its the best sound in the world. Granted, they have their moments, but they are learning and building their relationship. Sisters for life.
Some comments I’ve heard:
- You are gonna have your hands full!
- Wow, are you nuts?
- Did you plan this? Why didn’t you wait longer?
- How will you manage?
- I hope you can mentally handle all that comes with three kids.
- Are you done having kids after this?! What will you do to prevent it?! (I wish you could see my facial expression for this gem.)
So what do you think? Have you gotten any feedback like this during a pregnancy?